While sitting at dinner tonight with friends, we made an amazing observation one that I think is quite genius, people tend to shop in the same way they shop for a mate. On the surface this seems to make sense since in both circumstances you are searching for the "perfect fit", but really it goes much deeper than that.
I will use myself as an example of what I mean. I absolutely love to shop (thus why I began writing this blog) and I am always looking for a new fashion, style, or item that no one else has. It is important to me that I go shopping with others as their approval is extremely important. Very seldom, if ever, do I settle if something doesn't fit right and I have no shame in returning items to a store if it doesn't fit just perfectly. I am very picky and I am willing to wait to find "the perfect item". As my friend described, I like "good quality, well put together, smart" looking clothing. When I try on clothes, more often than not, I instantly know if I like the item or if I think it is not worth the money. On the rare occasion that I buy something that someone else likes on me, it takes me a while to become comfortable in the clothing and to really embrace its true hidden beauty.
Similarly when I think about my never ending (and I do mean never ending) search for a mate, I seem to employ many of my shopping techniques into my mate shopping. Although I hate to admit it, many men catch my eye, yet few really capture my heart. Working in a college environment, I have had to become comfortable with surprises, in tune with ever changing student needs, and work to easily say goodbye to people on a regular basis. Because of this environment that I live and work in each day, something new is always catching my eye, but similar to my clothes, I feel very few are worth my limited resources (time & money). Many men I tend to dismiss quickly if I don't feel that they fit well (similar to my clothes) into my crazy chaotic lifestyle. On the rare occasion that I give someone a second look, it is often as a result of encouragement from my friends. It is a result of their approval that I continue to pursue a relationship or interest in these men. I am willing to wait to find my "perfect fit"; a man who is of "good quality, well put together, and smart".
Although I am able to draw some parallels between my clothing and mate searches, this may not work for everyone. Even though up to this point I have been more successful with my shopping ventures than my male ventures, I am still determined to find the ultimate fit for me. The next time you head out on a shopping excursion, observe some of your behaviors and see if at all, you shop for a mate in a similar way. You might be surprised by what you learn.
In Shopping Sale Solidarity
Friday, September 18, 2009
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
